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Protect Your Child’s Self-Confidence by Heeding This Parenting Advice

By Bob Lancer
Monday, February 6th, 2012

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Parenting Children With Self Confidence

“My child’s helpfulness makes my work more difficult.”

This blog contains parenting tips for parents of young children who like to help out, but don’t do a very good job of it.

 

This parenting problem can be summed up as: “My child’s helpfulness makes my work more difficult.”

 

In my own parent-child relationship, while I was attempting to unload the clean dishes from the dishwasher the other day, my confident toddler was happily trying to “help” by placing his shoes upon the empty dishwasher rack.

 

In his mind, he was contributing, not presenting me with a child discipline challenge.

 

To demonstrate positive parenting wisdom, I know that I need to be careful when something like this happens.

 

If I become too focused on the task of housework, I might overlook the task of effective, positive parenting.

 

There are no COST-FREE parenting solutions. There are consequences for every choice.

 

I want my son to feel self-confidence and self-worth.So I sometimes have to overlook his mistakes and focus on, and respond positively to, what he is getting right.

 

His urge to help is something I want to nurture, not stifle.  He was not displaying a child behavioral problem by attempting to contribute.  He was practicing doing chores.

 

I know my child needs to feel secure in my love, appreciation, and admiration – that that is crucial for his healthy emotional development.

 

That is why I said, “Thank you for being so helpful” as his contribution really only added to my housework drudgery.

 

I was careful to not remove his shoe from the clean dish-wrack to avoid causing him to feel wrong for what he did, because I feel confident that he actually did his very best, which is something I want to encourage.

 

As his understanding and skills improve through practice and experience, child development will make his best produce better results.

 

Of course I don’t feel like having to unload dirty sneakers from my dishwasher.  Of course I don’t appreciate my toddler creating more work for me.

 

But what I want even LESS is undermine my child’s to self-confidence, my child’s self-esteem, and his drive to contribute and to do his very best.

 

In this blog, please share examples from your own parent-child relationship of when your child’s effort to help made more work for you, and how you handled that.

 

Also share any questions you have about how to respond to child behavior challenges in ways that support the child development of improved self-conduct.

 

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Transform Your Life With This Inspirational Message

By Bob Lancer
Saturday, January 21st, 2012

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Here is an inspirational message for you: Nothing but opportunity exists.

inspirational message for positive thinking

Envision a ray of light bringing into your mind a vision of success for you that really does feel just right

If you are feeling down about your opportunities, recharge your motivation and build your self-confidence by affirming: “Whatever my situation nothing but opportunity exists.”

 

When you condition your mind with this inspirational message, you attune your subconscious to seek and find your golden opportunities that are present.

 

It sets your creative mind-power to work on synthesizing the various details of your situation into a form that matches your dream of success.

 

If you are feeling discouraged about your possibilities, improve your chances for success by harnessing the power of positive thinking.

 

Re-direct your focus and receive the support of a positive mindset by considering no other possibility about your situation than this: nothing but opportunity exists.

 

You will stop seeing discouraging signs and indicators, and begin seeing how things really can work out great for you.

 

This form of positive thinking can be invaluable when it comes to successful goal-setting.

 

This is how to overcome discouragement in any situation: focus your thought on coming up with a wonderful vision of your personal success.

 

Just presume that it is the nature of each moment to present you with nothing but golden opportunity.

 

Then open your mind to a vision of succeeding in an honest, natural way that feels just right.

 

You never have to force things in an unnatural or dishonest way to get ahead.

 

As you accept the inspiring message that nothing but opportunity exists,you will receive a vision of success that utilizes your gifts and talents, feels completely fulfilling, and that matches up with who you really are.

 

This is a cure for economic worries.  As you try on the positive, empowering mindset that every economy offers nothing but opportunities, you will began thinking of your possibilities in new ways and come up with inspiring ways to take advantage of the economy.

 

Here is an exercise for success:

  1. Whatever your current situation, imagine that offers you nothing but opportunities.
  2. Envision a ray of light bringing into your mind a vision of success for you that really does feeljust right.
  3. If any ideas of success occur that do not seem like a perfect fit for you, simply let them go and return to step two.
  4. Do this for a few minutes, then rest.  If no idea comes in that time, repeat the exercise.  Repeat the exercise once or twice a day (or more if you like) until your vision comes.

 

This exercise programs the subconscious to STOP looking at disappointing possibilities, and to instead realize your great opportunity that really is present.

 

In this blog, please share your experience of this exercise and any questions that you have about realizing the truth of the inspiring message that nothing but opportunity exists.


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Your Inner Source For Positive Parenting Skills

By Bob Lancer
Saturday, January 14th, 2012

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Parenting Wisdom For Child Discipline

To develop and apply the parenting skills for successfully guiding child behavior begins by guiding your own self-conduct while in the act of parenting your children

There actually are sound, positive parenting skills that you can develop for raising children to be respectful, responsible, and well-behaved.

Developing and applying these positive parenting practices leads both parent and child into the fulfillment of their glorious potential, along a path of healthy, happy success,self-esteem and self-confidence.

It honors the individuality of the child and the parent, nurturing and supporting our natural drive to master our life-challenges in our own unique, positive way.

2 Tips for parents for well-behaved kids:

1. The first step is to concentrate on eliminating your stress and strain in the way that you parent your kids.

2. Remain self-aware in the present moment to notice when you are beginning to enter a power-struggle and feelings of over-whelm, impatience or frustration – so that you can sidestep these parenting pitfalls.

To develop and apply the parenting skills for successfully guiding child behavior begins by guiding your own self-conduct while in the act of parenting your children.

Parents, teachers and caregivers make child behavior management and child discipline more difficult and unpleasant than necessary when they focus so much on what the child is doing “wrong” that they overlook what they are doing about it.

During your daily parenting challenges, exercise the self-awareness and self-control YOU need to apply positive parenting skills that nurture, protect and preserve both the child’s and your own self-esteem and self-confidence.

When you CALMLY observe what is happening in the present moment, you can tune into your own higher parenting wisdom and have your child discipline questions answered right there on the spot, to succeed with your child without draining and humiliating yourself in the process.

By observing your child calmly, you will gradually see for yourself what to reasonably expect of your child, at each stage of development, and what to expect of yourself.

As you calmly and patiently experiment with your own best parenting strategies, and remain willing to learn from the results, you will develop your own tips for parents,come up with strategies for parenting that work best for you and your  unique child.

You will display a higher level of parenting skills for more satisfying results with your child.

In this blog, please share your thoughts about the need for parents to focus on improving their own behavior as key to bringing out the best behavior from their children.

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6 Relationship Tips For Life-Success

By Bob Lancer
Thursday, January 5th, 2012

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Relationships Tips To Help You Succeed

Strategically SELECT your relationships to form strategic alliances.

A positive relationship tips the balance of life toward greater fulfillment and success.

By spending time with someone whose qualities you admire, you cultivate similar admirable qualities in yourself.

Follow this advice for a relationship that helps you to succeed: be strategic about your relationship selection.

Strategically SELECT your relationships to form strategic alliances.

A strategic alliance is a relationship that you choose as part of a strategy for higher accomplishment.

An alliance with someone who demonstrates artistic represents a relationship that tips the balance of your life toward artistic success.

Here is advice for a relationship that will help you succeed in business: associate with people who have achieved business goals similar to your business goals.

Even a romantic relationship can be seen as a strategic alliance for love.

Some people feel trapped in a dissatisfying relationship, while others feel blocked from making personal connections.

They don’t realize that relationships are manifestations, results of their own creative activity.

Here are 6 relationship tips for greater success:

1. Remember that you are free to connect with others, free to form relationships with the kinds of people that you choose.

2. To take advantage of this freedom, trust in it.

3. The next step is to think about the kinds of relationships that you want to be in.

4. List the qualities of the kinds of people you want to be with.

5. Envision yourself in relationships with those people.

6. And here is perhaps the most important relationship tip: develop yourself in line with the kinds of people you want to be with.

 

In this blog, please share your thoughts about these relationship tips and the results of your application of them.

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Emotional Wisdom For Success

By Bob Lancer
Wednesday, December 28th, 2011

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Importance Of Positive Thinking

To apply wisdom for success, ALLOW yourself to fully experience however you happen to be feeling

There is an important emotional dimension to wisdom for success: however you feel is okay.

Don’t resist your feelings of unhappiness, resentment, frustration, shame, regret or insecurity.

Emotional Wisdom For Success:

When you accept, embrace, and fully TRUST how you feel, how you feel turns joy.

 

We students of positive thinking and motivational self-help need to remember this.

Much of the self-help success tips that we study focus on the importance of positive thinking and positive feelings, and rightly so.

But we need to remember to NOT by fear anxiety, resist discouragement, judge ourselves as “wrong” when we feel angry, over-burdened or even defeated.

To apply wisdom for success, ALLOW yourself to fully experience however you happen to be feeling.

Invite your feelings in, EMBRACE them. They will turn into beautiful harmony.

One vital thing to know for success in life, though, is what to do with your THINKING when you feel down.

It can certainly help to focus on inspirational quotes and motivational sayings.

But what is most important for success in life is to NOT indulge in thinking that makes you feel down or makes you feel worse.

If you cannot engage in positive thinking, at least keep your mind free of NEGATIVE thinking.

Try this wisdom for success exercise:

  1. Spend a few moments allowing yourself to experience how you are feeling in the present moment.
  2. If your mind begins to wander, immediately shift your attention from your thinking back to your feeling.
  3. Remain aware of your body to release any tensions that you might be feeling, so you relax fully and consciously to the flow of your feelings.

 

Practice this for at least 1 minute each day.

The more you practice this, the more you develop trust in how you feel.

In this blog, please share your experience of this self-help exercise, including your thoughts about it, and any questions you might have.

So when you feel down, apply the wisdom for success of THOUGHTLESSLY experiencing your feelings.

For instance, if you happen to feel lonely over the holidays, or too physically impaired to celebrate with gusto, just feel how you feel.

If your mind begins showing you a sad or frightening mental movie about your life, take your attention off your thoughts and focus it instead directly onto your present state of feeling.

Don’t judge yourself for NOT being able to apply positive thinking. Trust how you feel as you apply this wisdom for success, you will soon find yourself feeling better and better and better.

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Wisdom For Better Relationships

By Bob Lancer
Thursday, December 22nd, 2011

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wisdom for better relationships

Make a list of the qualities you would love to have in your relationships, like love, respect, sensitivity, fun, adventure, loyalty

Here is some wisdom for better relationships that I have learned from experience: accept the risk of being selective about your relationships.

It takes a fair degree of trust, though, to follow this advice.

For a relationship that works for you, you need to let go of relationships that work against you, but insecurity causes people to stay in destructive relationships.

I myself feel into pattern years ago, feeling so insecure about being on my own that I clung to people who did not treat me very well.

When I finally felt fed up with my own lack of courage, I decided to take the risk and step out on my own.

That is how I discovered this wisdom for better relationships.  I almost immediately found myself with opportunities for wonderful, mutually supportive relationships.

Receiving and even agreeing with wise advice for a relationship that works is easier than mustering up the courage to follow that advice.

But you can take it from me that facing your insecurity and going THROUGH it, instead of letting it stop you, will lead YOU into better relationships.

One way to bring better relationships into your life is to contemplate the kinds of relationships that you believe would feel wonderful and support your life-success.

Put this principle into practice with this exercise:

  1. Begin a list of the qualities you would love to have in your relationships, like love, respect, sensitivity, fun, adventure, loyalty, etc.
  2. Then make a list of the personal qualities you would like the other person to have, such as a fine mind, compassion, creativity, responsibility, motivation, etc.
  3. Everyday contemplate this list and add to it. As you create the relationships you want in your mind, you will attract them into your life.

In this blog, please share your experience of applying this exercise for better relationships, including the results, and any questions about it that you might have.

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Confidence Building Success Secrets

By Bob Lancer
Wednesday, December 14th, 2011

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be successful

To employ success secrets like confidence building, routinely and deliberately visualize yourself achieving results that match your wildest desires

Nothing is a source of confidence building like success.

But visualizing yourself succeeding comes very close.

Individuals who have achieved great success are extremely self-confident relative to their area of success.

Individuals whom I have known who have amassed great wealth, for instance, have the attitude that even if they lost their wealth, they feel totally confident that they could rebuild their wealth.

Confidence building is one of the great success secrets.

Notice how you feel after you accomplish something important to you.  You probably feel more self-confident.

I have found that visualizing myself succeeding is also confidence building.

By contrast, visualizing myself producing disappointing results causes my confidence to wane and my insecurity to rise.

To employ success secrets like confidence building, I therefore routinely and deliberately visualize myself achieving results that match my wildest desires.

The results of this practice are wonderful.  I feel less stress, less anxiety, more inspiration and more fulfillment every year, and I am delighted as I witness my positive dreams coming true!

Knowing success secrets is useless unless you put them to work.  Here is an exercise for doing just that:

  1. Make a list of three accomplishments that would thrill you.
  2. Spend one minute focusing your mind on visualizing yourself easily accomplishing each.
  3. Then, imagine the feeling of being absolutely self-confident about your ability to achieve those goals.  Spend 1 minute on this for each item on your list.

Please share in this blog your experience and the results
of this confidence building exercise.

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Motivate Your Child for Child Discipline

By Bob Lancer
Sunday, December 4th, 2011

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Encouraging Children With Positive Motivation

As parents, we need to live in positive motivation to pass on that wonderful spirit to our children

Here is a wonderful secret for how to motivate your child to display beautiful, responsible self-conduct and a great attitude WITHOUT you having to strain for child discipline.

Develop your SELF-motivation.

Self-motivation is a product of a happy way of life.

I’ve discovered with my kids that they definitely reflect the mood that I’m in.

When I become stressed, when I start to rush, when I overtax myself with multi-taxing, my positive motivation declines and my kids seem to need more child discipline from me.

But instead of pushing myself even harder to control their behavior with stern intensity, I relax, ease up on myself, and remember to ENJOY my kids instead of working too hard to control my kids.

As I do this, they need less child discipline from me.

When you feel motivated, enthused, in love with your life, you automatically motivate your child to behave beautifully, reducing your need to apply stern child discipline.

Since long before I had children I have been training myself to live in a mode that permits me to experience joy, peace, and love.

I learned that by slowing down, relaxing, paying more attention to the present moment, and remaining committed to enjoying my life, not just living my life, I feel more motivated.

I learned to listen to signals of my body.  For instance, while writing this blog I began feeling too hungry to concentrate without strain, so I paused for lunch.

While lunching, I looked out my window and noticed the sun shining, and that enticed me.  So I ate my lunch in the warm sunlight.

Honoring my feelings helps me stay motivated and, by extension, to motivate my child.

When I became a parent, I brought this wisdom into parenting.  I work on dealing with every parenting challenge with fulfillment, peace and inspiration.

Happy parenting is not necessarily irresponsible parenting.  If you commit to it, YOU can learn how to bring more joy into your handling of your child leaving a mess behind, fibbing, breaking an expensive dish.

It comes down to the quality of life you want.

Here is an exercise to live in joy,
so you can motivate your child automatically:

Take one day to concentrate on doing whatever you do
with more joy, fulfillment and satisfaction.

Take this into your parenting.  Whatever you do for or with your child, concentrate on making it an enjoyable experience for yourself.

This blog is your chance to contribute to the world’s parenting wisdom.
Please share with us, your “parent wisdom community”,
your experiences of doing this exercise.

Also share any questions you have about how to live in joy,
motivate your child and child discipline.

You CAN bring more joy, love and fulfillment into whatever must be done, if you make that a priority for yourself.

As parents, we need to live in positive motivation to pass on that wonderful spirit to our children.

To motivate your child, motivate yourself.

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The Wisdom of Practicing Trust

By Bob Lancer
Tuesday, November 29th, 2011

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Wisdom For Trust In Relationships

You CAN experience more faith and less fear in ANY relationship. Help yourself to this glorious liberation by simply PRACTICING unconditional faith

When we experience feelings of deep love in our relationships, our hearts fill with joy.

We naturally want to hold onto that joy, to experience it all the time.

As much as we want to feel joyous in love, though, we soon find ourselves feeling unhappy and dissatisfied once again.

If we lack life-wisdom, we might presume that we must be in the wrong relationship when we feel unhappy.

But the fact is that sometimes we even feel unhappy in our relationship with OURSELVES.

The Wisie Relationship Wisdom Video entitled, You Cannot Get Along With Everyone, provides us with this wisdom solution:  “…accept yourself as one of the world’s sacred treasures.”

But this wisdom is not always easy to apply, just as it is not ALWAYS easy to regard our mate or even our child else as a “sacred treasure”.

To experience more love in your relationships, INCLUDING YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF, try this simple relationship help exercise:

Practice relating in faith.

Doing this means that when you don’t like something that you or another did, PRACTICE trusting that everything is going to work out wonderfully anyway.

We don’t lose joy and love in our relationships because of what has happened, but only because we have slipped into insecurity in response to what happened.

How would you feel if you KNEW that everything in your life was absolutely guaranteed to work out as wonderful as you want it to be?

What happens in relationships to trigger your feelings of insecurity which robs your feelings of joy, fulfillment and love?

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about the wisdom of the practice of unconditional FAITH in life (no matter how others behave).

You CAN experience more faith and less fear in ANY relationship.  Help yourself to this glorious liberation by simply PRACTICING unconditional faith.

This is how to allow the expansion of love in all of your relationships.
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Embrace Your DIS-Comfort Zone

By Bob Lancer
Wednesday, November 23rd, 2011

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Wisdom For Personal Growth

Personal growth can be described as the wisdom of embracing your discomfort zone for higher success

In the Wisie for Success video, “Beyond Your Comfort Zone”, we read these inspirational words for personal growth:

“Beyond the area where you’re already comfortable, there are new possibilities waiting for you.”

We usually resist stepping outside our comfort zone, as when some technological innovation forces us to change our ways.

And yet, once we finally embrace the change, we find the innovation usually helps us to be more efficient and effective.

One of the unavoidable laws for achieving higher levels of success is that you must evolve beyond the habitual modes you currently find comfortable.

Personal growth can be described as the wisdom of embracing your discomfort zone for higher success.

Consider these inspirational words from that same success-wisdom Wisie video:

“Everything you experience is contained in what you expect to experience…”

These inspirational words remind us of the fact that expecting something to be difficult makes it difficult.

When you have to do something that threatens your comfort-zone, avoid projecting in your imagination that it WILL be difficult.

Relax by staying present – that is, focused on the present moment, and handle what you have before you in an unstrained, relaxed, step-by-step manner.

This helps you to move THROUGH your DIS-comfort zone in a more COMFORTABLE way.

To achieve greater success or to overcome a setback in what do YOU need to step outside your comfort zone?

What wisdom have you gained through your life-experience that relates to the power of expectation?

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about the wisdom of embracing your DIS-comfort zone.

Remember this: life is set up in a way that insures you will never be able to stay in your comfort zone for long.

Inevitably you will have to go beyond it, because personal growth and life are really one.

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