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It’s not always easy to tell if you are in a good relationship.
To know whether you are in a bad or good relationship you first have to be clear about how you define a good relationship
To know whether you are in a bad or good relationship you first have to be clear about how you define a good relationship.
If you define a good relationship as one that always satisfies your desires and inspires your feelings of appreciation, you actually doom yourself to a bad relationship.
Every relationship has its ups and downs. If you need to feel up all the time to regard yours as a good relationship, you are overlooking the fact that there is great, great good available in our challenges.
For instance, one common source of dissatisfaction in relationships is the feeling that the other person feels resentment toward you. In response to this feeling, you might resent that other person.
If you examine your feelings honestly, you will realize that any feeling of resentment that you experience, whomever you believe or imagine the source to be, exists within you. It is YOUR state of resentment.
As long as you CHOOSE to live in a state of resentment you are CHOOSING to live without love.
If you regard another person as the cause of how you feel, you blame someone else
for the negative feelings that you choose to live in.
How you feel about ANYONE is really a choice. It has nothing to do with how another may feel or act.
Your feelings about another are a reaction
to the thoughts you hold in mind.
Instead of resenting another for resenting you, simply let go of your own feelings of resentment and you’ll begin feeling more free, happy and in love.
A person might believe that she is not in a good relationship based on the belief, feeling or idea that her mate resents her. But the good of that relationship is the opportunity it gives her to wake up to how she resents herself, so she can finally release herself from that pattern.
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