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Build Your Self-Confidence To Improve Your Relationships

By Bob Lancer
Saturday, March 17th, 2012

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Relationship Strategy For Overcoming The Insecurity

Whether we are conscious of it or not, that relationship problem is produced by imagining ourselves lacking in some way.

When we feel insecure in a relationship, the cause is always imaginary.

 

Whether we are conscious of it or not, that relationship problem is produced by imagining ourselves lacking in some way.

 

This causes our lack of natural, comfortable self-confidence in the relationship.

 

A common expression of insecurity is to become a “people pleaser” by trying to figure out what the other person wants us to be.

 

But this relationship strategy fails to bring us happiness, because we still feel rejected by ourselves.

 

While pretending to be what we are not we are pushing the other person away out of fear of being “found out”, which will ultimately sabotage the relationship.

 

Here is a more effective relationship strategy for overcoming the insecurity that sabotages interpersonal-bonding: improve how you see yourself rather than worrying about or trying to manipulate how others see you.

 

The following confidence-building exercise can help you to build better relationships:

 

1. Write out a list of all the personal qualities that you see in yourself that you dislike, disrespect, or disapprove of.

 

2. Then, compose a list in which you replace those qualities with abilities, characteristics or talents that you would like instead.

 

3. Spend a few minutes envisioning yourself possessing and expressing each of those more desirable qualities.

 

Performing this exercise once or twice may not relieve you of the self-esteem problem that has been preventing you from enjoying better relationships.

 

A lack of self-confidence in relationships usually stems from deeply rooted self-concept habits.

 

But as you persevere in letting go of negative thoughts about yourself, and in building up a vision of yourself expressing more beautiful, powerful, splendid qualities, you will feel more self-assured in relationships.

 

In this blog, please share your thoughts and questions about this relationship advice, and your experience of doing this confidence-building exercise.

 

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Your Inner Source For Positive Parenting Skills

By Bob Lancer
Saturday, January 14th, 2012

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Parenting Wisdom For Child Discipline

To develop and apply the parenting skills for successfully guiding child behavior begins by guiding your own self-conduct while in the act of parenting your children

There actually are sound, positive parenting skills that you can develop for raising children to be respectful, responsible, and well-behaved.

Developing and applying these positive parenting practices leads both parent and child into the fulfillment of their glorious potential, along a path of healthy, happy success,self-esteem and self-confidence.

It honors the individuality of the child and the parent, nurturing and supporting our natural drive to master our life-challenges in our own unique, positive way.

2 Tips for parents for well-behaved kids:

1. The first step is to concentrate on eliminating your stress and strain in the way that you parent your kids.

2. Remain self-aware in the present moment to notice when you are beginning to enter a power-struggle and feelings of over-whelm, impatience or frustration – so that you can sidestep these parenting pitfalls.

To develop and apply the parenting skills for successfully guiding child behavior begins by guiding your own self-conduct while in the act of parenting your children.

Parents, teachers and caregivers make child behavior management and child discipline more difficult and unpleasant than necessary when they focus so much on what the child is doing “wrong” that they overlook what they are doing about it.

During your daily parenting challenges, exercise the self-awareness and self-control YOU need to apply positive parenting skills that nurture, protect and preserve both the child’s and your own self-esteem and self-confidence.

When you CALMLY observe what is happening in the present moment, you can tune into your own higher parenting wisdom and have your child discipline questions answered right there on the spot, to succeed with your child without draining and humiliating yourself in the process.

By observing your child calmly, you will gradually see for yourself what to reasonably expect of your child, at each stage of development, and what to expect of yourself.

As you calmly and patiently experiment with your own best parenting strategies, and remain willing to learn from the results, you will develop your own tips for parents,come up with strategies for parenting that work best for you and your  unique child.

You will display a higher level of parenting skills for more satisfying results with your child.

In this blog, please share your thoughts about the need for parents to focus on improving their own behavior as key to bringing out the best behavior from their children.

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